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I'm an acupuncturist, teacher, fertility specialist, patient centered advocate, mom, activist and more! This blog is a place for me to write down the things on my mind, the things I discuss over and over, and the things I find helpful, interesting, and inspiring all in the hope that someone else out there, maybe YOU, will find some of these things to be helpful, interesting and inspiring too. I love learning, I love sharing, and I am passionate about helping others lead more balanced, fertile, and healthy lives - while trying to do the same myself. So here goes... The Blogging Life...


Fertility Retreat - Let's Talk About SEX

So as it turns out, once a woman has suffered through not too many months of trying to conceive most become totally unfazed discussing their cervical mucus, frequency of sex, status of their uterine lining, their partner's sperm count and more. Did you hear the one about "the fertility version of white coat syndrome?"  Instead of your blood pressure going up when you see a doctor wearing a white coat, your pants go down!

In addition to the above, I've also heard my fair share of anecdotal stories about just how bad fertility sex can be including (and I kid you not), "I don't care if he has to put a bag over my head and watch gay porn, just so long as can get off when he needs to."  

I don't know whether to laugh or cry, but I know it's NOT healthy!

In traditional Chinese medicine and holistic health good sex, intimacy and orgasm are all important contributors (although not necessary to do at once!) to holistic balance, health and fertility.  Yet when it comes to fertility, talking about the actual act of sex, enjoying your body, your partner, having orgasms, communication (really ANYTHING related to this topic) is quite possibly one of the first things to be burned on the alter of fertility.  

Women work on their diets, breathing, exercise, supplements, cervical mucus, sleep, stress reduction, their eggs, their lining, (their partner's sperm), and so much more but low sex drive, stressful sex, performance anxiety (on both sides) are assumed to be inescapable.  

This month's mini-retreat is here to change all that.  While it is understandable that when sex becomes a means to an end and associated with failure there is going to be stress around it, there are ways to bring back intimacy, connection (with yourself and each other) and offset the stress in positive and pleasurable ways.  

Please join me and special guest educator Laura Rademacher Saturday, May 12th from 9-Noon for this amazing topic.

Laura is a sexual educator and a marriage and family therapist with a passion for sexual health & wellness. She created Edgewise to be an affirming and welcoming place for relationship and sex-positive therapy.   Laura has been educating herself and others about sexuality for over eight years. She is one of the co-hosts of the Sex is Fun podcast as well as the new podcast,Strong, Sexy & Stylish. Her writing has been featured in the Sex is Fun online magazine, Hot Dish on the Smitten Kitten website, and Playboy UK.  She has been a presenter at the University of MN, the SXSW Festival, and Pride in Stockholm, Sweden as well as many other events.  Laura also contributed chapters for the book Sex is Fun!: Creative Ideas for Exciting Sex.


What: Relaxing holistic fertility retreats with topics you'll love, women you'll connect with, and a la carte group style acupuncture/acupressure healing.  

When: Saturday, May 12th 9am - Noon

Where: St. Catherine's University in St. Paul (directions, room number & parking info will be given upon registration)

Who: Women who are naturally TTC, IUI, IVF, Donor Cycles, Surrogate Cycles, Adopting, Recurrent Loss, Making peace with discontinuing to try, Primary or Secondary, GLBT or Hetero, partnered or single, acupuncture pro or newbie (that includes needle-phobes, LHL Patients and non patients :)  (ALL women are welcome!)

Cost: $75 per participant per session - or skip the acupuncture (stay from 9-11) and pay $50 instead (acupuncture spaces are limited, so please specify when you register). pay in person (cash or check payable to Life Healing Life please)

Please pre-register at nicole@lifehealinglife.com at least TWO days in advance as space is limited. 

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